lil of this, lil of that...

Just a few things that happened the past few days...

~We had some fun making this...

~Ben used the word "uncooperative" because he said he was giving his OT a hard time and was messing with her...she agreed to this! :)
~Ben stood up with his hands on a table for 5 minutes with nobody holding on to him! last time it was 90 seconds! umm, hello!
~Ben said to all of the girl therapists he was working with that boys are funnier then girls!
~Ben made a painting that he had to hit the target with paint, he labeled it "target practice"...when asked whose face was the target he said, "Rich" with a huge smirk on his face...Rich aka Ben's PT!

~Today he walked with the dowlings all over the hospital floor today and also many walkings with his walker followed by the new bike in which he didn't want to get off of! At the end of his session I walked Ben to lunch!
~Ben had ants in his pants and legs yesterday and he did the positions below to get comfortable...

~We got a surprise small HUGE box of tasty chocolate fudge in the mail!! Oh my goodness! To the person who sent these THANK YOU! 3 different kinds and plenty to eat share! Just the night before I was scouring my hotel for just one piece of chocolate and couldn't even find one....well, were we blessed yesterday!!

Also we got a card in the mail from my parents for Ben and I...

~I bought some fabric (and i'm sure i will find more) for pillow and bed runner making and also a pattern to make some funky floor pillows...

~after making multiple returns yestday and doing so well at not buying anything back this lil guy caught my attention, how could I resist his sweet face! He will go great with the grey in our bedding...

~we talked about not settling for where we both are physically, spiritually and emotionally! Taking full advantage of where we are RIGHT NOW! Not looking to the future but soaking in the moments now! I don't want Ben to settle for where he is now but to keep moving forward and working hard even if he knows we are leaving soon!

~we have been eating alot of these items...

~ben has been asking to watch this alot (one of his fav shows)...

~i have been dreaming of this (prob won't be there anytime soon)...

~in reality we are to get more of this over the weekend...ummm, it's 3 days shy of April (and yes this is how I feel about it)...

~I continue to realize how in love with this man I am...

~Ben told me that I am beautiful not matter what I look like or how big I am! I told Ben he is amazing, strong, handsome, sexy and super proud of him BEFORE and AFTER the brain injury!

~We have been trying to live by this verse, "Wait patiently for the Lord. Be strong and courageous! Yes, wait patiently for the Lord!" Ps. 27:14

special lady and dirt puddin...

"Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." 1 Thess 5:16-18

One of the highlights of going home was getting to meet a very special lady for the first time! Her name is Kim and she has been huge in my life since the accident occured. She started commenting on our blog and then sending notes, trinkets, and goodies for Ben and I! One that stood out was a sweet looking little frog and in the card she said not to forget to FROG...fully rely on God! I loved that! We started swapping emails and then it went to text messaging and then finally meeting in real life! She lives in Eastern Washington and happened to be in the area after her little bro graduated. Kim and her sister came to one of the services I was talking at and then I got to meet her for the first time! Hugs and smiles were what we gave each other! So fun to FINALLY meet Kim! They were both able to go out to lunch with my family and some of our pastors so we got a bit more time in!! What a day that was!
Thank you Kim for being such a blessing, inspiration and encouragement to me and Ben! You are one in a million!!



Well, Friday afternoon brought abother segment of Ben in the kitchen! I have to remind him that it is not "cooking class" yet "cooking group" because if I say it is a cooking class he will say he doesn't want to go because he already knows how to cook! This week it was dirt pudding...minus the worms because they were out! Booo!
Ben had a great time though and he ate the whole cup that night for dinner. I didn't get photos of the finished product and by the time I thought if it Ben had already eaten the whole cup!





I think I posted it on one of my last blogs but we got an order from Ben's doc that we could now walk anywhere we wanted in teh hospital! We were not just limited to Ben's room! The last few days we have been practicing and have been doing really well! Ben of course does most of the work and I am just there to guide him and make sure he doesn't hit the ground! Ben gets anxious if there are alot of people or items around so instead of using his walker to stabilize himself he stands there and picks up his walker! Oh boy, this is something that we have been working on! The last thing I need is a man who weighs 190lb and 5'11" on top of me....well, it being Ben I guess that would not be to bad! :) Moving on...today we were able to go to the hotel and just chill. Instead of wheeling Ben to the bed and letting him stand I kept him in the living area and had him use the walker. I wanted to try him on the carpet and see how he did. Oh my goodness, it was as if Ben had been doing it the whole time! He stood on his own and took off! No stumbling, no tripping, no nothing but walking right to the bed and sitting down! It was amazing and Ben did soooo well! So proud of this man!
It was a relaxing weekend for both of us. Just what we needed after coming off of a super busy week! It also brought some deep questions from Ben that I was not expecting! I had to search my heart for the right answers. I was grateful that he was even thinking of it and thinking so deeply! God is still working His miracle in Ben!

Sayings from Ben...
I put my feet on Bens lap and he told me to take them off! I said "what?" and he said, "when i say something you say yes my king!" I laughed and then said "please rub my feet"...and he did!

Ha, the queen won!

Ben continually asks me when we are going home and now even more since I have been back from WA. He asked me the other day and I told him, "5000 days!" He looked at me and said, "that is not what you said before!" Well, he was remembering things so I said, "well, what did I say before?" Ben's response, "less then a month!"

He is right and many more blog posts to come on that!

a few stairs closer...

It has been amazing to see how Ben is doing these past few days since I have been back! His therapists said that while I was gone he was initiating alot more, asking people how they are doing without them asking him, and just over all doing really well. I have noticed alot of those things too! Amazing!

Ben and I had some big accomplishments today! While in PT this am Ben's therapist asked if I wanted to stay and have family training. Of course I was up to it! Ben and I took a walk around the hospital floor and I was surprised as to how well Ben was doing! It has been almost 2 weeks since I have walked with him and have noticed a big difference. He was not leaning to the left like he normally would do, he was keeping his heels down, his head was up better, he slowed down around corners and when the hallways became congested and his balance was much better. We did have a few hiccups but Ben did really well! We went two times with Ben's therapist looking on and then the next time he said, "alright, you both are on your own! I am going to stay in the gym and I will see you when you get back!" EEEEKKK!!! Inside I was freaking out a bit but on the outside I had to be composed for Ben! It went really well and Ben did great! Ok, I did too! We passed the test!! We can now walk together and with Ben's walker outside of his room with no one helping us!! That means instead of using his wheelchair to go eat or to therapies Ben can walk there! We are getting to the point of less chair time!! This is huge and a big accomplishment!!

Later on in the same PT session Ben attempted the stairs! He doesn't do it that often so today was another time to try it! Before the accident Ben loved climbing any mountain that he could get close to. He loved climbing Mt. Rainier in WA whenever he got home from a deployment or whenever he got a chance. He also loved taking people with him and still owes a few people a trip! Working on the stairs today took me back to those moments! Yes, there were only four stairs but that is four steps closer to getting back on his mountains!
Here is a 3 part video of Ben climbing away...





and one on a mountain with a few of his buddies...


Praise the Lord for His continued healing in Ben! He is still in the business of miracles!!

Sayings from Ben...
I asked Ben to sit up in bed because it was time for more therapy. He attempted to sit up a tad and then laid back down while saying in a whining voice and sarcastic smirk, "i just can't do it!" I told him that he could do it and that I didn't need to help him. He said back, "Rangers really need their wives to help them!" I said back that yes this is true and offered his my hands. He reached half way up for them and again in the same tone of voice said, "i just cannot do it, i need your help!" It turned into a laughing fit from me, a continuing sarcastic smile from Ben and both of us working on getting him out of bed but me makine

Ben do alot of it! Stinker, milkin it for all its worth!

speed biker...

"The LORD is my strength and my shield; My heart trusted in Him, and I am helped;

Therefore my heart greatly rejoices,And with my song I will praise Him."
Psalm 28:7

I hope you enjoyed the A-Z's on us! It was something fun that I could easily post while I was gone! If I come across more that are the "get to know you" type I will post them...and try and get all the answers from Ben!

I am back in Jersey where it snowed yesterday, was in the mid 50's today and snow to come tomorrow! Seriously this spring is a little wonky! I wear my Uggs one day, flips the next, rubber boots to follow and then back to Uggs! Cannot figure itself out!

I was so giddy to see Ben this morning! He was in Art Therapy and I went over to him! He had just finished making a picture for me and when he looked over to his left I was there and then came a HUGE smile from his face! He was talking and all giddy, so was I! It was so good to see him after being gone over a week! We had about 30 min to spend

together before Ben had to go to PT.
While he was in PT I stayed in his room to rest (went to bed at 4am and up at 9am) and catch up on a few things. One of the therapist assistants came in and told me that Ben was on a new bike and he wanted to show me. Oh exciting!! I got to the gym and this is what I found...



WOW is what I said when I walked in and saw Ben!

A few things that I noticed about this new bike...
{1} Ben was out of his wheelchair! (the other bike keeps him in his chair)
{2} The seat he is sitting on is much smaller then his wheelchair seat!
{3} Ben was FLYING!! Look at those legs move!
{4} He was able to smile, talk and pedal at the same time!
{5} Ben's only stability was from his backrest, otherwise he had to balance himself
{6} He was panting, out of breath, and saying he was loving it because he was getting a good workout and wasn't in his chair!!

More therapies later for Ben and a really good time with him tonight in the Word, singing and praying. I love his prayers at night. Ben is using more words, praying what is on his heart and he prays for me which is so special!

I had a great week back in WA. It was busy, fun, emotional, full of meetings, speaking and eating! I gained alot of information that I needed regarding our next step on this adventure which I needed. Also the speaking at our home church was really good for me. It was stretching but the Lord was with me the whole way and I felt it! I really believe that the Lord used our story to speak to the hearts of God's people and share Him! If it touches just one person or brings one person closer or to the Lord is worth this journey! Thank you all for your prayers, encouragement and kindness as I was gone and away from Ben! We felt your prayers!

Short and sweet post but this girl is tired and needs to catch some zzzz's to keep up with my speedy gonzalaes man tomorrow!

Sayings from Ben...
~Alot of my friends and family told me to go back and give Ben alot of hugs and kisses from them. I told this to Ben this morning and he said, "where are they?" I thought he was talking about the people so I told him that they are in WA. To that responded, "no, where are all my hugs and kisses?" I got right on that!
~I usually ask Ben "where is your head" when it is down or he needs to reposition it. I asked him about it today and his response was. "on my shoulders'" M-"why thank you captain obvious!" And to that Ben said, "well, you asked!"...and that was said ever so sarcastically!

Series on Hope...

This weekend I have the honor and priviledge of speaking, with one of our pastors and his wife, at our home church The Church of Living Water in WA. Last weekend they started a series on Hope and it continues to this week with Ben and my journey of Hope

through what we thought could be a hopeless situation!

The services can be watched live online at the

following Pacific Standard times:

Saturday, March 19 @ 5pm
Sunday, March 20 @ 9am and 11am

If you go HERE you will link up to Living Water's online service site!

To catch last weekends amazing service on Hope you can find it HERE

A to Z on Katie...

A. Age: THIRTY-ONE

B. Bed size: KING…NUFF SAID

C. Chore you dislike: DUSTING…SERIOUSLY WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF DUST?

D. Dogs: YES PLEASE, A BIG OLE BLACK LAB NAMED DIESEL

E. Essential start to your day: COFFEE AND KISSES FROM THE MAN

F. Favorite color: PEACOCK AND NEUTRALS

G. Gold or silver: SILVER

H. Height: 5' 8”

I. Instruments you play(ed): PLUNKED ON THE PIANO

J. Job title: WIFE, NURSE, CARE GIVER TO MY MAN

K. Kids: PLEASE SOON!

L. Live: JERSEYLICIOUS!

M. Mom’s name: EDE

N. Nicknames: KATIENANA, KAITLYN, KT&T, KATE, KATERS, SWEETS

O. Overnight hospital stays: 10 DAYS AFTER THE ACCIDENT

P. Pet peeves: PEOPLE CLIPPING NAILS IN PUBLIC, NOISY APPLIENCES

Q. Quote from a movie: “TAKE LOVE, MULTIPLY IT BY INFINITY AND TAKE IT TO THE DEPTS OF FOREVER…AND THEN YOU WILL HAVE A GLIMPSE OF HOW I FEEL FOR YOU!”

S. Siblings: OLDER BROTHER, TWO OLDER SISTERS, THREE LITTLE BROTHERS

T. Time you wake up: 0730-0800

U. Underwear: I WEAR THEM…

V. Vegetables you don’t like: PEAS

W. What makes you run late: KISSING, HUGGIN AND LOVIN ON MY MAN-IT ALWAYS HAS!

X. X-rays you’ve had: TEETH, STOMACH, ARMS…WHOLE BODY

Y. Yummy food you make: WHITE CHICKEN CHILI, TORTILLINI SOUP, PARMESAN CHICKEN

Z. Zoo animal favorites: GIRAFFS

A to Z on Ben...

A To Z on Ben…

A. Age: THIRTY-ONE

B. Bed size: KING

C. Chore you dislike: DOING DISHES (he always left a pile)

D. Dogs: WANT A BIG ONE

E. Essential start to your day: BATHROOM

F. Favorite color: BLUE

G. Gold or silver: HIS RING IS SILVER

H. Height: 5' 11”

I. Instruments you play(ed): NADA

J. Job title: ARMY RANGER FOR 11.5 YEARS

K. Kids: NOPE.

L. Live: CURRENTLY IN JERSEY

M. Mom’s name: JAN

N. Nicknames: BONESAW, J-BONE, BABES, BENNY BOO, BOO, BOO

(ONLY BY KATIE THOUGH)

O. Overnight hospital stays: 1.5 YEARS STILL IN ONE…

P. Pet peeves: NOISE, DISORGANIZATION, PEOPLE MESSING UP HIS GARAGE,

TOILET SEAT LEFT DOWN…

Q. Quote from a movie: “STRENGTH AND HONOR!”

S. Siblings: OLDER SISTER, YOUNGER BROTHER

T. Time you wake up: 7ISH

U. Underwear: NO COMMENT

V. Vegetables you don’t like: PEPPERS…THEY BE LIKE EWWWW!

W. What makes you run late: KATIE

X. X-rays you’ve had: THE LIST IS ENDLESS

Y. Yummy food you make: STEAK, PANCAKES

Z. Zoo animal favorites: MONKEYS

...stay tuned for mine!